This week in Savage Love:

I have a girlfriend and everything is pretty good. However, she has yet to give up her ass to me. She says that's for her husband on her wedding night, so she can offer him something no other man has had. I told her that in order to get me to marry her, she must give up the ass first. Either way, she's scared and thinks it will hurt. Do you have any suggestions on how I might be able to sway her?